Cupcake theory

"Your partner is kinda like a cupcake. You have your batter, the icing, and sprinkles. Batter are the non-negotiables, the icing are strong preferences (but not a deal-breaker), and sprinkles are the nice-to-have's. What's your cupcake?"

Batter

-Kind

-Health-focused (Huberman & functional wellness kind of health)

-Intelligent + high functioning

-Goal, moral, & ideological alignment

-Yin to my Yang (different, complimentary skillsets/behaviors)

-Strong mutual biological attraction

-Similar attachment style (secure-avoidant)

-Believes in balance masculine/feminine energy + healthy view of traditional relationships (monogamous, having multiple children, etc.)

Icing

-Prolific reader & consumer of source information

-Strong alignment with nature & biology

-Labrador gene (unexplainable genetic desire to jump in body of water)

Sprinkles

-STEM background

-Nice handwriting (I like to write letters)